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The good news is that the skills or behaviors for handling disagreement and conflict, for integrating change, and for expressing love, intimacy, sex, support, and appreciation can all be learned.
Successful couples learn how to manage their areas of disagreement and live life "around" them – to love in spite of their differences and to develop understanding and empathy fortheir partner's positions. "Irreconcilable differences" – like a bad knee or a chronic back – arenot a reason to divorce. Successful couples learn to dance in spite of their differences.
We figured out that's when we do all our fighting." In the beginning, we avoid conflict because we are in love and we believe that "staying in love" is about agreeing, about NOT fighting.
We're afraid that if we disagree – or fight – we'll run our marriage off into the ditch.
Put another way, it's hard to take her out to the ball game if you're not speaking.
Couples are often so determined to avoid disagreements that they shut down – quit talking, quit loving.
(Yes, in addition to learning how to manage disagreements and integrate change, it's also crucial to learn how to express love and appreciation.)There are many different courses for learning the skills – many courses from which to choose.